In my early 20s, I was determined to find the master formula for life. From choosing a major, to finding the right job opportunity, I wanted to be perfect and not make any wrong moves. The challenge I kept facing was that I would still make mistakes and did not forgive myself for those errors. Do you relate?
In my early 30s, I started to learn the "grace" concept. Grace is an undeserved favor, not earned by your own actions, or anything one has done to earn it.
In other words, you can receive gifts, blessings and good things in life without being perfect, even when you make mistakes. Who gives you this grace? I can personally attest to receiving undeserved favor from God because I would pray for things that no one knew I was asking for, but God made a way possible for me to still receive those items or opportunities aside from my lack of perfect performance. There are people and opportunities that you can receive without being the perfect candidate. You must believe that you are worthy of receiving grace in the near future. If you don't give yourself grace, other people will pick up on that energy.
In fact, the energy you give off in an interview will either hinder or harness your chances of gaining trust. Energy has a language - an unspoken verbiage that permeates through your engagement with who you are speaking to at any given moment. Your confidence and attitude in the job search process will directly affect the energy you give off in an interview. As an interviewer, I can tell when a candidate is second-guessing whether they should have applied for the role or contemplating if they are a good fit for the company. When a candidate makes a mistake or finds it difficult to answer a question, I can tell when they are unforgiving towards themselves. The rest of the interview goes "south" and they become tense and awkward. Then, it becomes distracting to the interviewer because the candidate has a hard time answering the remaining questions. Schedule a 1:1 interview coaching session with me if you would like to learn more habits to avoid in the job interview process.
How do you give yourself grace?
Forgive yourself and others from past disappointments so you can fully show up in the moment. As Joyce Myers references in her book, "The Approval Fix", running away or not taking advantage of an opportunity to thrive at work because of a past mistake you made shortchanges your chances of success.
Any time spent reflecting on the past without a clear sense of behavioral change to prevent it in the future is time wasted.
People can hold onto their past mistakes so strongly that old behaviors interfere with the ability to retain or learn new things. This is called “Proactive Inhibition”. If you were gifted with a new opportunity or the ability to receive new knowledge, could your old memories and experiences cause you to block or reject the new information you are learning? The answer is YES! Healing from past memories of failures caused in the interview process or on the job is crucial to being able to be present in the moment. Completing the healing process will cause more clarity and provide you with the ability to obtain new knowledge that can help create new memories.
You can learn more about Proactive Inhibition and gain additional tips to land the next best opportunity in my new book, Always Employed! Get your copy TODAY!
If you are struggling to move past your interview or job search mistakes, let's meet so we can talk about it! Book a free 30-min session with me today.
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